The Importance Of Walking Away?

Lara, there is a difference between honesty and rudeness. Some people use "honesty" as a disguise for being a bully. One of the great enemies of civility is a lack of self-control.

Their obsession is to make sure the spotlight is always on them. Those are the ones who crave attention, and they don't care who they run over to get it.

They are easy to spot, and easy to ignore, and -- if you choose -- really really easy to rile!


Dan Turner
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I suggest VERY strongly that EVERYONE answering this thread reads them before answering

Lara

Did someone say something offensive to you directly?

If not, let the person who you think should have been offended speak for himself.

Personally, if Mike, or anyone else, said something to me and I didn't respond and you spoke up on my behalf, I'd tell you to STFU.

Lara,your questions are so difficult to answer because it depends on the recipient of the "honesty". Someone might be deeply offended by a seemingly rude and critical remark but it might be that the one thing they said later was the thing that spurred a real turning point for improvement. I think BOTH approaches are needed. Usually the people wishing to encourage and find all the positive things are in the majority anyway so there is plenty of good stuff to be heard. But there has to be room also for the other point of view. Both are valuable at different times for different people in different circumstances. If you come on a public forum and ask about your work you must be aware that you will get a range of answers. If you only want people to tell you how good you are,then you are at liberty to write to people privately instead.

Ignore. No need to respond to every comment someone makes. It comes down to people opinions. You don't have to agree with them. Or even respond.

X2 what Edward said. More often than not responding can backfire and make you look worse than the person you are responding to.

I was just responding to Lara to tell her she was not banned from the forum and it appears she has closed her account. She decided to walk away

So I will close this

As I said to her, there is a reason we do not allow threads like the one which was closed (I did not close it but would have if I had been in here)